“It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages” Friedrich Nietzsche
Rebuilding your foundation
When you come to couples counseling with Angela, you can expect to receive quality and effective interventions that have been empirically validated to help couples achieve their goals.
Key points to Angela’s experience and theoretical orientation to Couples Counseling:
- Emotionally Focused Therapy that has foundational components in attachment and family systems theories. I look at your present relational patterns with a strengths-based and validating perspective while I help you to more effectively communicate with your partner.
- I will identify and educate you on the developmental stage of your relationship and assist in transitioning you into the next level with ease and harmony.
- Education on the latest insights into neuroscience and what we know about how the brain responds and interacts with your partner.
- Normalization and validation of your experience and your unique dynamic.
I am a therapist that understands relationship dynamics and is committed to helping your relationship heal.
The following is a brief outline of what you can expect in session and how you can make the most of your time:
ASSESSMENT: The first 2-3 sessions will be assessment and history taking. I am eager to provide you with new skills to enhance your relationship, however, I need to get to know you and the particular dynamics of your relationship first. This will take time- but it’s worth it! The better I know you- the faster and more effectively I can help.
COACH: Like a good coach, it is my belief that my job is to help you to reach your individual objectives for being in therapy. And, like a good coach, I will push and challenge you to points that might feel uncomfortable. Everything I do in session is with the goal of bettering your relationship.
PREPARE: Come prepared for your session. Think of it like preparing for a business meeting. You would not come unprepared to an important meeting and say, “Sorry, I don’t have anything to talk about, does anyone else?” Your preparation will pay high dividends.
HOMEWORK: Do your homework!!! In most meetings, I will come to an agreement with you regarding the homework you are willing to do over the week. But sometimes I will not. Homework is a way to try out new skills in your relationships real life context. Trying on these skills in your busy life is key to finding what does or does not work for you.
EFFORT: Lastly, the effort you put in will be equal to the progress you experience. While I can offer my expertise and your partner can offer their opinion, it is you, and you alone, that can make the individual changes necessary for the betterment of your relationship.
If you want to increase your knowledge about yourself, deepen your connection to your partner and improve the interactions between you, then Couples Therapy is the way to go.
Angela Jensen-Ramirez, LCSW provides Individual, Couples, and Family Therapy in and around the South Bay communities of Los Gatos, Willow Glen, Campbell, and San Jose.
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